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The 3 Most Common Personal Growth Barriers

I believe that the key to a lifetime of happiness lies in personal growth. Real and lasting fulfillment in life comes from consistently improving the quality of your life and doing what you love. Since I love reading, I’m always in a hunt for self-improvement books!

Personal growth and self-development are arguably one of the most important things you can do with your time to reveal your true potential and your life purpose. It’s so easy to treat personal development as ‘optional,’ and so few people ever take the time to actively improve themselves.

Your actions are geared towards self-improvement. Everything you do, you do with a positive intent. However, is mostly unconscious and for most people, it’s a case of pursuing ‘things’ and ‘stuff’ with the assumption that when they get enough ‘stuff,’ they’ll be happy.

So why do people fail to participate in their personal growth actively? Well, certain personal growth barriers prevent them from actively progressing in any area of their life. The key word being ‘actively.’

The three most significant personal growth barriers are three interrelated behaviors that tend to keep us immobilized and locked up in inaction. The result being the failure to progress with our lives.

Personal Growth Barrier #1: Procrastination

Procrastination is the unreasonable delay of tasks, especially important ones. On a conscious level, you might want a specific result, and you know what course of action to take, but still, you remain immobilized. The failure to act is what keeps you where you are. Keep in mind that you only procrastinate about tasks that you value and at some level, you know you’ll benefit from it.

Personal Growth Barrier #2: Indecision

A decision precedes every single action. Indecision is like a disease that you have to eradicate from your life. Indecision is merely the result of a fear of failure, and by not making a decision you can’t fail – right? Realize that nothing in the future has happened yet and fearing the worse possible outcome will almost certainly keep you from making the decision. If you don’t make the decisions, you won’t take the actions, and you will remain immobilized.

Personal Growth Barrier #3: Comfort Zones

Comfort zones are all those things that you are too familiar with – and often to the point where you don’t even attempt anything else. Inside your comfort zones, everything is known and you have this sense of certainty that you can comfortably deal with anything that comes your way. You’ve done it before, and you feel ‘at ease’ with it.

Stepping outside your comfort zones challenge your beliefs and perceptions. However, stepping outside your comfort zones, challenges you to grow as a person – you have to grow to get comfortable outside your old comfort zone.

In summary

All barriers are only that – barriers. The barrier to your personal growth is more psychological than actual. They can stop you, but they can’t keep you unless you allow them to. Simply acknowledge them and then move on.

Personal growth is a choice, and it’s an active process. To ensure a happy and fulfilled life that’s filled with joy and appreciation you have to consistently grow and expand yourself, stop procrastination, make quicker decisions, and step out of your comfort zones.

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Seven actions to developing your power – Part Two

If you missed the first seven Power Action tips, you can read them here!

Here are the next seven actions to developing your power.

Power Action #8 – Listen!

Listen to what the other person is telling you. When he or she is talking, give direct eye contact and don’t think about how you are going to respond. Process what they are saying and then formulate your answer. Too many people do not listen when people talk but instead, think about what they will say next and miss most of what that person said.

Power Action #9 – Do Your Homework!

Don’t go into anything unprepared. Plan and organize what you need to do. Checklists work great, reason why pilots use them, so they don’t forget anything! Wasting someone’s time due to poor planning leaves a bad impression. Even a little preparation, if rushed, goes a long way.

Power Action #10 – Be Disciplined!

Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual discipline is at the core of your being. Work on improving it every single day.

Power Action #11 – Stand Up Straight and Fly Right!

Good posture commands attention. Shoulders back, stomach in, butt in, and direct eye contact give you a commanding presence.

Power Action #12 – Be Compassionate and Caring!

The world is a hard place, but by caring and being compassionate people always make a difference in an otherwise selfish world.

Power Action #13 – Find a Mentor!

Emulate someone you admire. Good role models help us build our unique model of who we are.

Power Action #14 – Associate with Positive People!

If you want to be upbeat, positive, and confident, don’t hang around with petty, nasty, complaining, whiney people. They’ll bring you down if you let them or you’ll become one of them. You know the type, complains at work but does nothing to change their unhappy situation. Life is too short to be pessimistic. Choose people who laugh, have goals and objectives, and are interested in living life to the fullest.

Power Action #15 – Give!

Give your time or money to worthwhile causes. What you give and how much you give will come back to you in spades in all kinds of ways. Misers are unhappy people.

Remember – your attitude determines your altitude in life. It’s never too late to start!

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Seven actions to developing your power – Part One

As an introvert, I have always wondered, what makes some people so energetic and admired that they become a people magnet? You know, the kind of person you enjoy being around anytime. It has little to do with good looks, being abundantly wealthy, owning an expensive car, or wearing the latest fashion. Of course, these can’t hurt if you are lucky enough to have them!

Then I discovered that Personal Power has to do with how you think, react, interact, and manage your time efficiently. Being successful in life, love, business, and all personal activities take work, and a conscious “awareness” of the qualities and traits make you a confident, take charge person that attracts people.

I’ll share with you 7 Actions to Developing your Power that you can implement daily. Progress is not made overnight, but by taking small chunks and tackling them one at a time.

Power Action #1 – Maintain an Even Temper!

Have you ever met a hot head, angry, bitter person that you love to be with? Probably not. Your temperament and how you handle yourself in all situations can determine your “cool” factor. Keep steady, sturdy, and stable. Think before you act. Don’t get this confused with personality. Some folks are laid back; some are lively and animated. It’s perfectly fine to be who you are, but when losing your cool or you are being pulled in five different directions, how you react is what’s important.

Power Action #2 – Have a Sense of Humor!

Be self-deprecating and disarming. You must be willing to make fun of yourself from time to time, rather than being serious all the time. Like anything else in life, humor should be used in moderation and at the right time to be effective.

Power Action #3 – Smile!

People love to feel valued and important. You can make someone’s day just by giving a simple smile.

Power Action #4 – Treat People Like You Would Want to be Treated!

What goes around comes around. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. Don’t get caught up in vicious gossip.

Power Action #5 – Remember People’s Name and Small Details About Them!

More importantly, use both in conversation. People love to hear their names and being asked questions about their life; it shows you have an interest in them on a personal level.

Power Action #6 – Be Honest!

If you lie, even a small little white lie, you’ll eventually get caught in it. Everyone appreciates direct honesty, even if it’s not what they want to hear.

Power Action #7 – Let Other People Talk!

A conversation needs to be two-sided to take place. Let the other person do most of the talking. Remain attentive and interested in what the person has to say.

Every day strive to be the best that you can be. Will you stumble along the way? Sure, but it is how you get up and continue that counts. It’s the small daily effort that you take that can lead to the dynamic, “gee I wish I were like him/her” person you deserve to be.

Your attitude determines your altitude in life. It’s never too late to start!

Here’s Part Two!

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How to overcome the fear of planning

Some people are born planner; some live on the edge of their seat. I’m a planner. I like to think ahead, have options, and be ready for possible outcomes.

What holds people the most from planning is fear of not getting what they want. Before starting to plan, think about the following questions; be honest with yourself.

Are you afraid to fail your plan? 

Failure is not an option. I get it; no one wants to fail. Unfortunately, many of us fear failure because we’ve failed at something in the past.

A way to beat failure fears is to simply train your mind to visualize everything you want from your plans. Consciously visualizing your plans will better help your sub-conscious mind to remember what it is that you want to accomplish.

Do your plans involve everything you want?

When I want something, I write it down and think about how I’m going to get it. Writing things down helps validate my thoughts.

It doesn’t matter how unrealistic it seems to you; there’s a way to accomplish everything you want in life. Remember that whatever you put out in the Universe will come to you.

Does your plan include your business and family?

When I think about my business, I think of what it will do for me and how it would affect my family in the future. Always consider business and family the same. They are part of your future.

It’s important always to ask yourself these questions. Doing so will ultimately lay out what it is that you want in life. Losing the fear, writing things down, and making your family part of your business will help you create balance and enjoy a happier life.

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